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What are the signs of emotional abuse?

pandemiclaughter:

monkeyfrog:

fegeleh:

the-goddamazon:

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

The last one is a killer and very important.

this is extremely important tw #abuse

Always reblob.

No longer walking on eggshells and being able to be completely me has been an amazing transition in my life.

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(KICKSTARTER TO HELP DR. GLORIA JOSEPH PUBLISH A BOOK ABOUT HER LATE PARTNER, AUDRE LORDE) The Wind is Spirit: The life, love and legacy of Audre Lorde The Book is written and edited by Dr. Gloria Joseph
Poet, warrior, feminist, mother, pioneer, lover, survivor….just a few of the adjectives used to describe Audre Lorde. As author of numerous books of poetry and prose and the subject of several biographies and documentaries Lorde’s journey has been chronicled, anthologized and mythologized. And although the life and works of Audre Lorde are widely known, her full story remains untold.  But her story can’t be told as a straight narrative with time stamped events neatly bound between the pages. Lorde lived her life out and out loud. Her spirit is like the wind so instead of trying to capture it, we’ll let it blow free and loosely weave together a tapestry of essays, photos, recollections to create a book written and edited by Dr. Gloria Joseph to tell some of the stories of Audre Lorde.
Our book is celebration of Audre Lorde told in living color and vividly narrated with photography.  It’s a words and pictures way to honor her legacy and tell the story of her turbulent and triumphant life.   Dr. Joseph has selected a diverse group of contributors who have submitted personal essays, stories, poems, recollections and memoirs that show how Lorde’s words and vision inspired and impacted others to be the best they can be.  
The Book will be told in Griot style and will take the reader through the defining periods of Lorde’s life as well as include rememberances from her three major memorial services in New York, Berlin and St. Croix.

(KICKSTARTER TO HELP DR. GLORIA JOSEPH PUBLISH A BOOK ABOUT HER LATE PARTNER, AUDRE LORDE) The Wind is Spirit: The life, love and legacy of Audre Lorde The Book is written and edited by Dr. Gloria Joseph

Poet, warrior, feminist, mother, pioneer, lover, survivor….just a few of the adjectives used to describe Audre Lorde. As author of numerous books of poetry and prose and the subject of several biographies and documentaries Lorde’s journey has been chronicled, anthologized and mythologized. And although the life and works of Audre Lorde are widely known, her full story remains untold.  But her story can’t be told as a straight narrative with time stamped events neatly bound between the pages. Lorde lived her life out and out loud. Her spirit is like the wind so instead of trying to capture it, we’ll let it blow free and loosely weave together a tapestry of essays, photos, recollections to create a book written and edited by Dr. Gloria Joseph to tell some of the stories of Audre Lorde.

Our book is celebration of Audre Lorde told in living color and vividly narrated with photography.  It’s a words and pictures way to honor her legacy and tell the story of her turbulent and triumphant life.   Dr. Joseph has selected a diverse group of contributors who have submitted personal essays, stories, poems, recollections and memoirs that show how Lorde’s words and vision inspired and impacted others to be the best they can be.  

The Book will be told in Griot style and will take the reader through the defining periods of Lorde’s life as well as include rememberances from her three major memorial services in New York, Berlin and St. Croix.

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ivybradley:

You may have seen #pumpkinfest trending on Twitter last night. My fiancé Bret and I live and work in/near Keene and Bret was in Keene for part of the riot picking up friends who were stuck in town. He showed me some videos he took and I was absolutely disgusted, so I wrote down…


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revolutionary-afrolatino:


chilloutmotherfuckr:

booty made out of straws so you can SUCK MY ASS

chilloutmotherfuckr:

booty made out of straws so you can SUCK MY ASS

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atimo-taguy:

Mass Execution of aboriginal Children from the Mohawk Residential School located in Ontario. They took all those children and stood them up next to a big ditch, then they shot them all and they all fell into the ditch. Some of the kids were still alive and they just poured the dirt in on top of them. Buried them alive. Prisoners of the church. This mass murder happened in 1943 – in Brantford, Ontario, on land occupied by the Canadian Army, at its Basic Training Camp Number 20 Lorna McNaughton of Ohsweken, Ontario: is a survivor of the infamous “Mush Hole”, the Brantford Mohawk Indian residential school, run by the Church and Crown of England until 1970. Why were these children shot?  The school was overcrowded just then. She was there, Lorna saw the army bring in all these cots for lots of new kids who showed up from all over the country. They must have just wanted to get rid of all the extra hungry mouths; it was wartime and everything was rationed. One day those new kids were in the dorms, then they were all taken out, and were never seen again. A probable site of this mass burial of the executed children has been located, and is now under the protection and jurisdiction of the Onkwehonwe Mohawk Nation and its clan mothers. #indigenous #aboriginal The investigation into the Canadian Genocide continues.  The Mohawk residential school Institute, 1832-1970 – Church of England (Anglican) operated - Ontario.

atimo-taguy:

Mass Execution of aboriginal Children from the Mohawk Residential School located in Ontario. They took all those children and stood them up next to a big ditch, then they shot them all and they all fell into the ditch. Some of the kids were still alive and they just poured the dirt in on top of them. Buried them alive.

Prisoners of the church. This mass murder happened in 1943 – in Brantford, Ontario, on land occupied by the Canadian Army, at its Basic Training Camp Number 20

Lorna McNaughton of Ohsweken, Ontario: is a survivor of the infamous “Mush Hole”, the Brantford Mohawk Indian residential school, run by the Church and Crown of England until 1970.

Why were these children shot?

The school was overcrowded just then. She was there, Lorna saw the army bring in all these cots for lots of new kids who showed up from all over the country. They must have just wanted to get rid of all the extra hungry mouths; it was wartime and everything was rationed. One day those new kids were in the dorms, then they were all taken out, and were never seen again.

A probable site of this mass burial of the executed children has been located, and is now under the protection and jurisdiction of the Onkwehonwe Mohawk Nation and its clan mothers. #indigenous #aboriginal

The investigation into the Canadian Genocide continues.

The Mohawk residential school Institute, 1832-1970 – Church of England (Anglican) operated - Ontario.

napsychan:

The truly inspiring story of the Chinese rubbish collector who saved and raised THIRTY babies abandoned at the roadside

A woman has been hailed a hero after details of her astonishing work with abandoned children has emerged.

Lou Xiaoying, now 88 and suffering from kidney failure, found and raised more than 30 abandoned Chinese babies from the streets of Jinhua, in the eastern Zhejiang province where she managed to make a living by recycling rubbish.

She and her late husband Li Zin, who died 17 years ago, kept four of the children and passed the others onto friends and family to start new lives.

Her youngest son Zhang Qilin - now aged just seven - was found in a dustbin by Lou when she was 82.

‘Even though I was already getting old I could not simply ignore the baby and leave him to die in the trash. He looked so sweet and so needy. I had to take him home with me,’ she said.

Full story

Why doesn’t this have more notes?
This woman is nothing short of an angel.

She has so little and gives so much, and organizations such as the government and school systems won’t do anything for this cause.
I am at loss of words at this lady’s sacrifice.

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afropunker:

psl:

talkdowntowhitepeople:

me tho

first of all

and…

lastly.

I miss this show. Such a great show.

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urnasty:

yoncevevo:

fuckyeahblackcelebrities:

nicki watching iggy perform

*kill bill sirens*


$$$

urnasty:

yoncevevo:

fuckyeahblackcelebrities:

nicki watching iggy perform

*kill bill sirens*

$$$

willisninety-six:

The Syrian Civil War turns 3 years old.

The conflict began on March 15, 2011, and resulted in almost 150,000 deaths (11,000 of them children), 2 million refugees, and over 9 million displaced persons, with no end in sight.
Photography from The Atlantic.

lovelyandbrown:

thisiseverydayracism:

The prison-industrial complex is just a myth…right?

Jesus he didn’t even have us do the damn math. He just said it.

lovelyandbrown:

thisiseverydayracism:

The prison-industrial complex is just a myth…right?

Jesus he didn’t even have us do the damn math. He just said it.

poc-creators:

On cultural appropriation of poc cultures by poc. 

dynamicafrica:

Pharrell’s GQ Masai-inspired Cover Sparks Outrage From Masai Community.

The British have a terrible history when it comes to cultural sensitivity. Looking at this world map, one can see that the vastness of the once-British Empire is not a display of greatness, but rather the markings of a former global system of oppression of brutality that has left its mark on our world today. Whilst far from the level of British imperialism, Pharrell Williams’ happy-go-lucky self doesn’t have an outstanding track record when it comes to cultural appropriation either. Perhaps that’s why this pairing featuring British GQ and Pharrell Williams isn’t altogether shocking.

Earlier this year, the singer, rapper, producer and ‘New Black’ spokesperson swapped his Vivienne Westwood mountie hat for a Native American war bonnet as he posed on the cover of Elle UK. How he and the entire Elle UK Magazine crew have managed to miss the countless articles and posts that have been published and circulated widely online against this form of cultural appropriation, I have no clue. But it seems like neither camp was aware, cared or showed any concern about their offensive actions until they were lambasted on social media.

Prior to the shoot, the Elle UK Magazine’s website posted a description of the editorial saying, “We persuaded Elle Style Award winner Pharrell to trade his Vivienne Westwood mountie hat for a Native American feather headdress in his best ever shoot.” Post-criticism, the message was later changed to read, “We persuaded [Pharrell] … to collaborate with us on his best ever shoot.” This weak attempts at a “cover-up”, if you can call it that, shows that Elle didn’t quite got the message. Not only were they fully aware of what Pharrell Williams was wearing from the get-go (they referred to the item by name), they neglected to concern themselves with the significance behind the item. Rather odd as fashion magazines are notorious for publishing well-researched in-depth articles about the designers behind the clothing featured in their magazines - especially on their covers.

Posing in yet another Western fashion-related magazine, this time British GQ, Pharrell’s multi-page spread sees him wearing arbitrary face paint and items of clothing associated with Masai people. Shot by lens duo Hunter & Gatti, the two said about the shoot, “all the inspiration concept of the shoot is related to the Masai tribe paintings. We brought a real Masai tribe just to make the ambient music around the shoot and inspire Pharrell.” If you’re wondering what this ‘tribe’ looked like or what the so-called ‘ambient music’ sounded like, GQ posted a video of the behind-the-scenes action on YouTube. But what’s really frightening in this case isn’t their overuse of the word ‘tribe’, it’s how they refer to the Masai people and culture as nothing more than items and props to be used at their disposal exposing the ways cultural appropriation rids a people of agency. That and how this cover makes Pharrell a repeat offender and serial cultural appropriator.

Whilst there has been outrage from members of both the Masai community and people leaving comments on Kenyan blogs concerning the commercial use of their culture, it is yet to receive the attention it deserves in mainstream media making a formal apology less likely in this case. What’s more, the specific use of Masai culture as a source of ‘inspiration’ speaks to the greater problem of companies that have been profiting from the image of the Masai, an already marginalized group in their home country, for decades.

In a BBC interview, Lemayian Ole kereto, an elder from the Masai community, expresses some key concerns with regards to the case against appropriation. Not only is cultural appropriation an act of suppression done primarily for commercial gain and usually enacted on already oppressed and marginalized groups, the use of “culture without consent” is never complimentary as it disregards the history, traditions and identities of those it depicts and affects the most. Ole kereto further adds that without prior consent from those representing the communities or culture in question, use of any facet of their culture falls directly into the real of cultural appropriation. If no body or agency exists that represents the majority or totality of the people in question, then companies should then refrain from this form of cultural ‘borrowing”. Ownership must be respected at all times.

Often, when discussing the issue of cultural appropriation, the question of whether or not it can be complimentary or not is sure to arise. The answer, quite simply, is no. Cultural appropriation has no benefits to those it affects. Cultural sensitivity and awareness are at the crux of addressing issues pertaining to cultural appropriation. When buying or making use of an item that is said to represent or belongs to a certain community, it is important to inform oneself of who is benefiting from this transaction. There is a possibility that cultural “borrowing” can benefit all parties involved. As Ole kereto says, “partnership attracts responsibility” which in turn creates effective awareness beyond commercial gain and profitability.

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superselected:

#IamaLiberianNotaVirus. A Call to End Ebola Stigmatization and Prejudice.MORE.

superselected:

#IamaLiberianNotaVirus. A Call to End Ebola Stigmatization and Prejudice.

MORE.

wakeupslaves:

sh0rtybangbang:

black-american-queen:

junkyardvarren:

unexplained-events:

This photo won the “Pulitzer Prize” in 1994 by Kevin Carter. The picture shows a sick and hungry child crawling to the UN food camp located about half a mile away. The vulture is waiting for the kid to die so it can eat him. This was a very shocking picture and no one knows what became of the kid, not even Kevin Carter.
We often see such strong pictures and wonder why the photographer didn’t do anything to help. Kevin Carter got a lot hate for not helping the child and leaving as soon as he took the photograph. Three months after he received the Pulitzer Prize, he committed suicide because of depression.
I will never understand why he left the kid there and walked away. 

me neither.

He just left a kid to die. And won a fucking Pultizer Prize.
A Journalism prize. Because he took a picture of a dying child and did not even lift a finger.
He was exonerated, applauded by people because he took a picture of a dying black child — and the worst part, the worst part was that this action — had he done this with a white child in E. Europe… he would have been torn apart as a photographer. RIPPED. HIS CAREER WOULD HAVE BEEN OVER.
But leave a black child today, Pultizer Prize.

He committed suicide because of the backlash of criticism he got from the public on leaving the child to die


White people

wakeupslaves:

sh0rtybangbang:

black-american-queen:

junkyardvarren:

unexplained-events:

This photo won the “Pulitzer Prize” in 1994 by Kevin Carter. The picture shows a sick and hungry child crawling to the UN food camp located about half a mile away. The vulture is waiting for the kid to die so it can eat him. This was a very shocking picture and no one knows what became of the kid, not even Kevin Carter.

We often see such strong pictures and wonder why the photographer didn’t do anything to help. Kevin Carter got a lot hate for not helping the child and leaving as soon as he took the photograph. Three months after he received the Pulitzer Prize, he committed suicide because of depression.

I will never understand why he left the kid there and walked away. 

me neither.

He just left a kid to die. And won a fucking Pultizer Prize.

A Journalism prize. Because he took a picture of a dying child and did not even lift a finger.

He was exonerated, applauded by people because he took a picture of a dying black child — and the worst part, the worst part was that this action — had he done this with a white child in E. Europe… he would have been torn apart as a photographer. RIPPED. HIS CAREER WOULD HAVE BEEN OVER.

But leave a black child today, Pultizer Prize.

He committed suicide because of the backlash of criticism he got from the public on leaving the child to die

White people